Healthy Boundaries

"Wise & Healthy Boundaries

•There is a place for wise boundaries. Being a loving presence in the world doesn’t mean being a doormat for anyone to walk on. Really mature beings have a sense of autonomy and a kind of clarity for the correct usage of wisdom.
•With a really open heart, focus on where you are communicating from and the power of your listening.
•We don’t have to close the heart off to have a sense of healthy boundaries. You can have wise boundaries, but that doesn’t mean you have to shut your mind down or shut your heart off. You can do it in a very loving way that is infused with wisdom.
•Look at and acknowledge the personal opinions and judgmentalism that the mind creates. We can have a fortress of ideas and judgments that sustain a separate self.
•The correct use of boundaries comes from clarity and autonomy.
•Everyone knows what it feels like to feel defensive. What am I defending? Who am I defending? When you look in a really deep way, you can see that you are defending a point of view.

•Defensiveness is an egoic trait -- it’s what maintains the feeling of separateness."                                                                                                                                                                                                      
- Notes from Fierce Love Course by Adyashanti.