Forgive All Betrayals

We have vast resources beyond... the surface mind. This is the most marvelous discovery... —Leslie Temple-Thurston

"The scar tissue in the emotional body is the grievance—the holding onto the idea that something bad was done to us. There must be a choice to let that go. You might say, “Okay, well so what? Somebody did something bad to me. What do I want to do with that?” A decision must be made. Are you going to take responsibility for it or put the responsibility for it on to someone else?

If somebody did something, which you interpreted as being bad for you, you could take responsibility for causing it. You make the choice to let it wound you and to hold it as a scar in your being, or you could just as easily choose to dump it. That is forgiveness, where you wipe the slate clean. You will feel it as a letting go and as a releasing in the diaphragm area.

So forgiveness is the mystical union of two opposing energy forces. It allows them to dissolve, and then they naturally come together, unify, and ascend into the heart.

Forgiveness, to be real and helpful, has to happen on every level. It is important to let go of the way in which we have told ourselves the story. We created the story, and we can heal it and let it go. Letting go of the grievance in the mind and letting go of the old story are the ways to start. The release in the body will follow. We can just decide we do not need them anymore, that they are meaningless to us. To release them in the body, we can meditate on the place in the body where the hard knot is held and put light and love into that spot. We are not the victims of circumstance. We are the creators, too. But until we accept that, we are powerless in the face of dominance from the outside that wounds us.

Try to accept that you are the victim and the dominator, that you are the betrayer and the betrayed—both sides. As the soul designer of all experiences, you are in fact both sides of the story. It takes an incredible generosity of spirit to do this. That is why it is a spiritual state to forgive.

While forgiveness is a state of generosity, of letting bygones be bygones, it is also a state of humility, too. You might practice saying, “Maybe there is another way to look at this, maybe this situation isn’t what it appears to be.” This would be really close to the truth, because nothing in this world is as it appears to be. You can also practice saying, “Maybe I brought this on myself somehow.” These are ways that you can get past your wounding and victimhood while still being in the system of duality, while still being in a state of feeling separate. I believe that is what the teaching of forgiveness is about. It is not necessarily about seeing the non-dual truth, which releases you instantly when you get it. It is about being in the duality and finding ways to heal yourself.

Use the polarity processing technique to help clear the egoic knot of betrayal. Find a place inside yourself where you hold a grudge. For example, against someone who wronged you in some way or against God for the unfairness of life. Write about the betrayal in your journal. Be sure to include all your feelings about it. Go back through the story and circle all the descriptive words and phrases—adjectives, adverbs, anything with a charge to it. Make a list of all those words and phrases down the left-hand column of a page. Then in the right-hand column, write the opposites. Remember that these are the polarities that comprise the ego, that lock us into attractions and repulsions and that keep us stuck in the limitation and the duality of the separate system. Make an offering of the list and give it all back to spirit. Let it all go, knowing none of it is who you truly are. You are eternity. In a meditation, release it, forgive the betrayal, and try to feel the movement of energy into the heart...

Oh Eternity, please take all of these states of mind which are unbalanced, and balance and clear them. Do this so that I may see more clearly and find my way home more easily. I offer up these feelings of betrayal, and I ask to be able to forgive and to live more in my heart. I give thanks, knowing it will be done...

Please meditate for a few minutes and work with that original betrayal inside your body. Imagine along the midline of your body, the core, that you have a column of light made of the white light of eternity—what we know in the physical universe as star energy. It is the same light as the stars. The veils are not dense and impenetrable. If you go inside yourself and radiate that light, it comes right through the veils. It is the light of God. Everyone has it. It is your core, and it is the core of the universe. As you do this, remember: Who needs attachment to anything when you are a star burning brightly inside the physical body? Forgive all betrayals."

~ Leslie Temple-Thurston with Brad Laughlin, Returning to Oneness—The Seven Keys of Ascension