No Arguments

Session Notes:
"The 4 Inner Arguments
There are generally four inner arguments: arguments with yourself, arguments with others, arguments with life, arguments with God. These are four ways we are resisting and judging.
Most people have some amount of argument with themselves most of the day. It’s part of your superego, a parental kind of ego, that’s talking to you in a judging kind of way.
You can’t really gain deep entrance into your emotional life as long as you’re arguing with yourself.
We often reserve our most powerful emotional arguments for the people who are closest to us.
If you hold on to your arguments, you’ll continue to suffer. We often think our arguments are legitimate, that somehow we're going to win our arguments, but we just don’t. If you buy into those arguments, you’ll just be arguing forever.
We look at the way the world is and often think that our arguments are valid. But what’s missing is that everything and everybody -- the world -- is simply the way it is.
Freedom can be defined as no more argument with yourself, no more argument with others, no more argument with the world, and no more argument with God...

EXERCISE: Unhooking Toxic Emotions
(Excerpted from the Study Course Q&A “Toxic Emotion Attacks.”)
Here’s a concise method to unhook and embrace toxic thoughts and emotions. Keep in mind that one cannot simply read and understand this method; it must be applied, each and every time you get a toxic emotion attack.
Identify the exact thought and emotion that is occurring. As an example: “judging thoughts and unworthy emotions.”
Once the thought and emotion have been identified, remind yourself that “This thought and this emotion is not me, nor is it other than me. It is simply the current emotional weather pattern that is occurring.”
Notice that the current emotional weather pattern is arising within conscious awareness, like storm clouds arising in the open space of the sky.
Let go of focusing on the thoughts and emotions (which does not mean to deny or repress them) and notice the space-like quality of awareness. Take whatever time is necessary to acknowledge and get the feel for conscious awareness.
Notice how conscious awareness is not caught within the thoughts and emotions. Take a moment to really feel and know this.
Notice how conscious awareness is not separate from thoughts and feelings -- not caught but not apart from them. Every thought and every emotion arises within conscious awareness, never apart from it.
From conscious awareness kindly and lovingly say to the thoughts and emotions, “I am not you but I lovingly welcome you into the space that I am.”
Feel in your body the welcoming and the embrace of what has been repressed and resisted.
Allow yourself to feel the safe and quiet quality of conscious awareness.
Repeat as needed as often as is needed.
Remember that you are not trying to be perfect at this exercise, only consistent. And part of the resistance to what is arising will be to resist doing this little exercise at times. And even that resistance can be embraced as part of the exercise."

- Adyashanti, Liberating Insight online course notes